Three Tips For Calling In "The One"

I am dropping in today to ensure you manifest your BEST wholeself week ever!

Welcome back for the second week of the month of LOVE! 

Last week, we talked about all things self-love. Why? For one, self-love is the foundation of all love; for two, if you don't know how to love yourself, you won't know how to receive love or love another. 

This week, we will dive into what I will label the most vexing love, as it is the area most of us get tripped up on, creates self-doubt, worry, stress, drama, and self-abandonment. 

Drum roll, please...

Romantic Love. 

 "The One," that soul-aligned compatible partner that matches you in values, goals, dreams, and wishes.

In all my years of coaching, this ties in number one of what clients wish to unravel. The other is a poverty wounds, no surprise, right? Love and Money. 

Why? Why do we seek to unravel this?

Because no matter what we say to self-protect, we as humans want to belong. At the most basic human level, we all crave to be adored, loved, claimed, cherished, and protected by someone who always has our back.

What I see happens when the one doesn't come easy or doesn't claim us back, or we get caught in a looping cycle of calling in the same relationship dressed up in a different human suit is the ego takes a hit, anxiety floods our bodies, and a constant negative internal voice kicks in.  

• What's wrong with me
• Why can't I find a love
• What are they thinking
• Why are they rejecting me
• Why do I always attract the unavailable one
• Why do I always get ghosted
• I am doomed to be alone
• Etc, etc.

Next is the ultimate self-abandonment, actions that result from believing it is more important to be loved and chosen than to be the real you. We do this by allowing another's actions to mean something about us, placing others on a pedestal, energetically chasing and doing anything to make them like us. Followed by more self-talk: "If I can change this person and make them see me and want me, then I am validated; I am whole, lovable, and worthy." 

This stops now!

Say this with me: 

• These behaviors (stories) are not serving me.
• I will no longer push through when everything in my body is screaming what are you doing? 
• I will do a favor for anyone who tells me they are not looking for what I am looking for (ahem, friends with benefits) by believing them and saying next instead of saying challenge accepted. 
• I recognize that sometimes it is about their identity and has nothing to do with me, my value, worth, or lovability.
• It is okay that not everyone is an energetic match for me.
• It is not my job to make someone like me.
• I am a high-value person and deserve a willing, high-value person to meet me in a flowing relationship.  

Fear not, dear ones; I will not leave you hanging; below, I am dropping some of my most dynamic tips to begin breaking this cycle and help you find and be the one while still showing up as your authentic self. 

First up!

1.) Who are you attracting? It is a simple question we must investigate with an open and honest mind. What qualities do these individuals share? Are they the qualities that align with your POV, desires, values, dreams, and goals? 

• Exercise one: If we don't know what we want in our person, we will continue to draw in the wrong one, so it is time to get clear on your love vision. What do you require of the person you are calling in? What do they like to do? What are their family, religious, political, and financial views? What are their values, humor, and hobbies? What are your non-negotiables? Once you complete your vision, start by being that list; remember, we don't attract what we want but what we are. 

2.) Many of you are carving your way in the world. You are the self-employed, the one that has the full-time job and a side hustle, the C-level executive, the single mom of three directing the who, what, where, and when, all while juggling three balls in the air with the other hand. You make the decisions, control, and lead because you have to. You are standing in your masculine energy because you have to. 

Ask yourself this question: how would it look if you allowed yourself to drop into your feminine energy when dating? 

I am not talking about the feminine energy that is over-nurturing and behaving like someone's mommy because rule number one is if they can't take care of themselves, they are a hard pass. 

The benefit of dropping into that incredible sexy feminine energy, in this case, is it allows you to see precisely how that person will show up for you and care for you. It will enable you to evaluate this person's values, actions, and words and see if they align with your love vision. 

I challenge you to allow yourself to feel safe embodying the feminine and give the other person a chance to share and take turns in the driver's seat. 

3.) Words create reality. The two tips above are actions, and this last one is a bit of what I like to call practical-woo. For example, I will offer a story of one of my besties. Here is a fabulous person: confident, funny, outgoing, accomplished, and intelligent. On paper, to many, without a doubt, the perception of the perfect catch. So why, then, was the one not being seen? 

Words! Dominant words and thoughts formed her perception, thereby, her reality of the 3D world. "I will always be alone"; "I'm completely alone," and "All the men attracted to me are short." 

One day, while talking, I braved up and asked her if I could share my observations of the words she was using because I knew the reality she was experiencing was not what was in her heart. 

After sharing my observations, she immediately said, "I have said I would be alone my entire life; even as a teen, I said this." 

What followed was this:

• Are you indeed alone? No. Truth, she is surrounded by a great support system of friends and family who love her. 
• Is this story/mantra serving you? No. Truth, she wanted a partner. 
• Is this story/mantra protecting you? YES!

I knew this would be the answer as I knew my friend's childhood history. 

Her being asked these questions allowed her to discover what was occurring. Since she was ready to live a new story, she released and healed the old trauma; she reframed her perception and wired in words that served her for her desired life by practicing a conscious awareness and discipline of her words. Guess what, "the one" is now happily united with her.

Words create reality. 

• I am never going to find the one
• I am so alone
• There are no nice ones
• Only the old (or young) ones are attracted to me
• They always ghost me

Change your words, change your reality!

I know what I've shared with you will be SO valuable for you, but remember, if you want something - you have to get out there and MANIFEST YOUR WHOLESELF LIFE!

 Until Next Week,

Annette Marie

P.S. From February 14th to February 29th, to celebrate the month of love, all one-hour coaching sessions will be gifted with my Self-Worth Energy, Clearing RTT coaching on the go course.